#228
Every relationship you have with other people mirrors the one that you have with yourself.
In other words, what you expect and demand from others is what you want and need from yourself.
Let me rephrase this one more time – in order to receive what you want and need from others, you need to be able to give that to yourself first*.
When we completely outsource our wants and needs to other people, without actually being able to feel complete and confident on our own, we end up resenting our partners because they can never meet our expectations and demands.
This logic applies to all relationships in our life until we are ready to do the inner work.
The question remains – what’s important to you in a relationship? And have you already mastered providing that for yourself first?
When you discover what’s important to you in a relationship with others, you’ll find out what you can focus on improving next when it comes to the relationship with yourself, based on which trait feels the most “impossible” to achieve / receive.
*Yes, you can manipulate others into getting what you want and need, but over time the instant gratification will wear off and leave your heart bitter and hungry for more depth – or you’ll get tired pretending to be someone you’re not
